Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Courage

Courage is the mastery of fear, not the absence of fear.

Feel the fear & do it anyway.

I'm not thinking of courage to go into war, or fighting aliens, or some monster being that is about to destroy the world. No, that isn't the courage I'm talking about at all.

I've been watching my little "I'm-almost-4-years-old" daughter at very close quarters of late. In the last month or so, our relationship has taken on a depth I've never truly felt, except for the first couple of months of her life, after watching her be born.

I've been inspired by the courage she's shown in doing things that sometimes terrify me. Like simply walking up to a person she's seen & met for the first time, & saying thank you for letting her pet the horse. & then having a conversation about horses & their hair & her hair & dogs & whatnot.

I am beginning to understand what the phrase "Child is the father of man" means. Innocence, I think, is unadulterated. I'm beginning to think that the word - adulterated - refers to something spoiled by adults. But again I digress.

Fear is something we learn as we grow older - fear of people, fear of solitude, fear of poverty, fear of ... the list can be longer / taller than Robert Wadlow.  Yet, as children, we're unblemished - what we fear we have learnt from our surroundings - parents, peers, siblings. Fear is the external world's way of control over something that is otherwise uncontrollable. & most of us fall for it.

Most I said. I will devote this week to look for & post stories that are in the news, of people who have summoned up the courage to do things - not necessarily earth-shattering or record-setting events, rather, of people who to me appear worthwhile emulating for their every-day courage.